From time to time, I get an afternoon or morning or even a whole day of this really good place where I trust myself in whatever comes up, and I trust my intuition, I trust that my undefended first reactions to things are appropriate and will lead to happiness. I'm kind when this is happening, and I'm funny. It usually happens when I'm feeling affection and appreciation for something, or someone, and everything is like being at the beach. I wish this would be all the time, the laws of thermodynamics say nothing can be all the time, and chance is not interested in making your life easy--that's your job--to figure out how to keep your boat upright get to where you're going in constantly changing conditions, sailor.
But self-acceptance combined with readiness to appreciate everyone and everything in your awareness can be like a gyroscope that resists toppling over. It doesn't matter what happens, on a deep level, on the level of unconscious reaction, the presumption is kindness, and for the best-ness. This attitude is fantastic and allows for things to happen that are fantastic. When this is going on, I sometimes think of Zora Neale Hurston's phrase:
"I love myself when I am laughing. . . and then again when I am looking mean and impressive.”
Getting to that place is like having super powers. It can be done, pretty much independent of circumstance (*Note: given that you can be in a place where physiological rest is at least possible).
We could actually choose to make this more likely, but it requires intentionality about redirecting habits and temptations. When we have the experience of being afraid and overwhelmed early in life, the habits of blame and attack and self-criticism and despair can become well established and automatic. A new, alternate channel of habit can be created, but it is like an Army Corps of Engineers project--you fill in an old channel and open a new one.
The one that you open is a flow of realization that even if you are sad or overwhelmed it is possible for the situation to be unchanged and you find yourself grateful and excited about things once you wish someone well in an unconditional way, independent of what you get from them or what they are willing to do for you, you just like what you like, and someone could pay you a million dollars not to and you still would.
From that place it's like you are on top of a fire tower looking out over the Cascade Mountains, and everywhere you look is beautiful, and you are beaming appreciation in 360 degrees, wishing everyone well digging everything, the green in the hills, the shape of the mountains, the flying birds, the cloud shapes, the glow of sun on a warm fabulous day, and of course feeling that coming out of you, so you are the very eyes, heart and soul and sentient center of a loving world that you love.
That in all possibilities, you can imagine something you would love to happen and honor and recognize what's lovely in someone, in something.
This has a kind of transformative power that you didn't see coming necessarily (for example, instead of being enemies with someone, you might find you have great affection for them and understand them), and it feels really good.
Instead of being afraid, you can be busy helping, be busy offering love to something or someone that can use it, and you won't be afraid then, you won't be despairing then, you'll be feeling warm and appreciative and excited about what is possible. That makes stuff move that you didn't imagine could move. It can even make time and life and even death irrelevant. Once that's the case, how can fear hold you back?
Well these are just words, what can we actually do physically to help bring ourselves there?
I got this information from a website. I'll quote it below
- place my left hand on my heart and my right hand on solar plexus is in the center of the body between the rib cage. The heart represents current life and the solar plexus represents the higher self (infinite life). During the meditation run a figure 8 (the infinity sign) around my hands (i.e. a circle around the left hand, and then a circle around the right hand, over and over again in a figure 8 ) so that what appeared to be happening is that current life integrates with higher self under your hands.
- Testimonial: "It feels good would feel this warm, peaceful, happy glow in my center even when in times of challenge and I was feeling scared, sad, and disconnected from loved ones. Then a moment or so after I acknowledged this warm feeling, I noticed that I would get a new insight, or some sort of inner guidance–guidance that actually helped me resolve specific problems I had in my life at the time. The warm, intense feeling definitely got my attention. It helped me at a time when I wasn’t yet confident with my ability to correctly distinguish my true inner guidance from my mental conditionings or imaginations. It also helped me to recognize which inner guidance was extremely important for me to follow."
- Placing your hands on your body as I described above while lying down actually helps to calm you, to reconnect you to your higher self, your true self. (Try it for a while and see for yourself.) This kind of meditation also affirms (and helps your mind get) that your power is within you, not outside of you, and that the source of your power is your direct connection to Source (to God)–which I believe will be extremely important and useful in the near future.